Monday, December 18, 2006

Since when did being single become something to be sorry about?

Just curious..
What is so wrong with me being single? I can't go a single conversation about relationship status without my romantically attatched friends, men and women alike, trying to set me up with a friend of a friend, or a friend of a boyfriend, or a friend from way back when, or a guy in their soc. class. It's getting absolutely ridiculous.
I know I've already asked, but again, since when is there something so wrong with me being single? Yes, I do realize that I've been officially single for well over a year and a half now. So...? lol, I don't see the problem here.
I don't need to be in a relationship to feel good about myself, or happy. I'm still waiting for that guy that decides he's going to convince me that I want to be with him.
I've gone through enough with guys to know that things need to go both ways. If I'm telling him that I want him and that he makes me happy and he doesn't feel the same way enough that he wants to be with me too, it's not that big a deal. I deserve exactly that and I don't see any reason to compromise really. I haven't made a list of impossible expectations. All I want is someone that I make happy, that wants to make me happy too. As my friends, you should all be happy and supportive of me. Just the way I am for you, even if I have my own concerns about your relationship. I don't call you, hear that you're getting married and say, "You know what, I have this friend of a friend's neighbour's brother's cousin and I think you should marry him instead. No? Well, just keep it in mind. I'm going to give him your number just in case."I don't want to be set up, I don't want to go on blind dates, I don't want to conveniently be the only single person in a group of couples, with the exception of that single guy that you've been telling me about. Is my life so boring that I need someone else to make it interesting? That I need a relationship to make it anything worth hearing about?
Yeah, it may sound selfish, and yes, it probably sounds cocky of me to say that I don't need all of that. I have no problem getting dates, I assure you. I just don't want them. When I do decide that I'm going to date, it will be on my terms, not somebody else's. When there is a guy who says I like you and I want to try and see if there is something there between us, THEN I will consider it.
You tell me that I'm going to be waiting around forever, but that isn't true. It happens, trust me. Plus, who says I wouldn't mind waiting around forever for that one perfect guy. He's out there. I wouldn't settle for anything less. Just because I'm not in a relationship doesn't mean anything.
I've been on dates, and you not hearing all the non-existent juicy details doesn't negate their existence. They've just meant nothing and gone nowhere.
So, for all of my friends that seem to be so utterly worried about me that the first thing they say to me when I see them for the first time in 4 months is that they have the perfect guy for me to meet, please, just stop it already.

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